Acting Like Social Retards In Social Settings

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Found this by accident, but how true it is...

One of the truly great ironies in life is how people will deliberately place themselves in social situations and then do everything in their power to avoid connecting with other people.

Bars and clubs are a good example.

Men and women both frequent these environments on a regular basis. But strangely, there are relatively few connections taking place in these environments. Many men just stand around looking at the women all night, while others aggressively try to pick women up. And the women, on the other hand, are generally closed off to being approached at all (with some notable exceptions).

However, a double standard is also at work. If a man shows unwillingness to talk he is encouraged to be social (e.g. "smile" more). But if a woman shows unwillingness to talk it is assumed that the men are inadequate or they need to rise to the occasion.

While this may have a positive effect on getting men to become more extroverted, it also has the effect of encouraging and reinforcing antisocial female behavior. Typically, this positive reinforcement goes unchecked through a woman's formative years, and a social retard is born.

To better understand this, consider the following analogy. A great many women complain that they never meet anyone because of lack of "chemistry". And this premise generally goes unchallenged in popular culture. As a result, many females adopt a passive ignorance and inability to look at themselves. So anytime things don't work out they can point to the "lack" of something outside their control. And this is conveniently called chemistry because it sounds romantic enough to be believable. But in reality, what is often lacking is inside them. They expect the fireplace to give them heat before they give it wood, and things never seem to work out.

Nowhere in the chemistry manual does it say that women need to look at themselves and make the effort, and that is the problem.

This same sort of passive ignorance occurs in bars and clubs. Bitchy, cold women adopt the social retard mindset and screw up their chances to meet anyone nice. Granted, sometimes it's a defense mechanism to avoid certain men, but too often it is universal unreceptiveness. Unfortunately, this unreceptiveness is rewarded and encouraged by guys who approach them anyway and who are so caught up in thinking with their smaller heads that they never pause to reflect on the sanity of the situation. So you have aggressive social retards (the men) trying to win over the passive social retards (the women), usually by using lame pickup lines, bragging, etc.

But an interesting phenomenon occurs when these socially retarded females see a man they like. They genuinely want to get to know him but since their frame of mind is so deeply immersed in the antisocial mindset, they actually sabotage their own efforts to make a connection. They may stand near him and hover in his proximity while simultaneously avoiding eye contact at all cost. And sometimes the guy will approach her, but then she will either bolt or her friends will cockblock.

In other cases, these women will make eye contact with a guy they like but from a "safe" distance. And if by chance he moves in to talk to her, she will bolt like before. Other times these women will make eye contact with the guy but will always keep a minimum (safe) distance no matter what. Other times they will pinch the guy's ass while walking by, and when the guy looks around to see who it is, all he sees is a girl walking away really fast. But usually they do this while with a group of friends, since it's better cover.

And of course, dumb men (especially those in the seduction community) will feel that this sort of behaviour is simply women's way of testing for the strongest males, and not a symptom of deeper psychological problems.

The truth is that socially retarded behaviour can only be overcome by marginalizing. Men who observe females exhibiting this behaviour should avoid them, such as not bothering to talk to them, and in some cases positioning themselves far away from them. It is only this way, that social retardedness can start to come apart, and the sting of introspection start to set in.

It's harder to be a social retard if it gets you ignored.